Why I am a therapist

I have had the privilege of counseling for over 20 years. It continues to be an honor that people allow me to be a part of their lives.

Clients often ask me how I can do this job. How can you listen to people’s problems all day long? The answer continues to be the same. We all have struggles in our lives and I get to help people with theirs. I am able to be a witness to the most beautiful parts of life and the most difficult. I see people who have lost connection with one another, fall back in love. I see families, where arguing has become the norm, reconnect with each other and enjoy their family again. I see people struggle with depression and anxiety, shame and hopelessness, get better and find joy. I have the best job in the world!

I am married and have two kids. I understand the ups and downs that come with family life, careers, and life around us. My family rolls their eyes when I say I love parades, festivals, and state fairs. They join me in loving K-State, a good meal around the table with friends and family, and reading.

How I can help

I provide a fresh, outside perspective to your life. During hard times, we tend to repeat the same thoughts over and over. We do the same behaviors and get the same results. We have the same conversations with loved ones until we know exactly what the other person will say. I can help you move past this.

I help you and your loved ones hear one another in a new way. Often, we get stuck because we don’t understand where the other is coming from. I can help you figure out what you need to say and how to say it.

With changes in life, we sometimes lose ourselves. I can help you rediscover who you are, find direction or purpose in your life.

Therapy should be a safe place. Sometimes, life is more than just hard. It is painful. We need a place to hurt, heal and find hope again. I am here to help you do this.

I work with my clients to make counseling what they need it to be. Some clients need a sounding board and a listening ear. Some clients need new ways to cope with life. Some need action steps to get the changes they are looking for. During our first session together, we will talk about how counseling can be helpful for you and how I can be a resource.


I started my training with an undergraduate degree in Psychology at Kansas State University (Go Cats!). I received a master’s degree from Oklahoma State University. Following my graduate work, I worked at a non-profit counseling center in Kansas City for five years. I have been seeing clients in private practice in Johnson county since 2008.

I have specialized training in the Gottman method for couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and postpartum depression and anxiety. I am a trained administrator of the PREPARE/ENRICH inventory.

I am a member of my profession’s national organization, the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Speaking Engagements

I enjoy facilitating classes and workshops. I have presented to couples of all ages, mothers of young children, and teenagers.

Previous workshops have included…

  • Reconnecting with your Partner
  • Postpartum Depression and Anxiety
  • Self Care and Healthy Relationships
  • Qualities of a Healthy Relationship

I would welcome the opportunity to speak with you about your group’s needs.

Have questions? Call me at 913-735-9334 or email me at suzanne.heffner@gmail.com